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My Soul Look Back

How I got over how I got overHow I got over how I got overMy soul look back and wonder how I got over Sometimes, it pays to look back.  Over the last few days, I’ve been struggling personally and professionally. The reasons for these struggles are not important to this conversation. What is important…

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You Are Enough…Really?

You are enough.It’s a well-intended mantra. An easy- to- remember positive affirmation. However, like many sayings, it is becoming one of those over-used, sing-songy, and frankly, boring cheerleader-salesman-motivational speaker-phrases rallied from stages and bold-printed in pages of numerous self- help books. There’s nothing wrong with the phrase. In fact, I’ve meditated on it myself a…

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Identity in Crisis

Reader, as you read this blog, I want you to think about  the role of identity in our schools. the need for what Claude Steele calls the critical mass ( what I call my peeps) the trauma many of our children undergo due to implicit bias I’m often called on by parents to “shadow”their children in schools.…

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Dusty Self

Dusty Self By Clavis   It’s been years since you thought about. Leafed through it. Pressed the dog-eared pages between anxious fingertips. BUT it is there. Where you left it. Shoved between choices and sacrifices. Lost among the cobwebs of roles, jobs, positions. Relentless pursuits. It’s braced, right where you tucked it away, Turned away,…

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Somebody’s Child

“What would you say to your child, if you saw/ heard her saying/ doing…?” This is one of my most asked coaching questions. Why?  As coach, I have come to know this…We lie to ourselves and make excuses. Most of us don’t value ourselves as much as we say we do. We don’t commit to…

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C C & C Code #1: Coaching is not what you do, but who you are

In my experience, coaching is not something, if taken seriously, you can explain to someone in an elevator ride or even in a twenty-minute conversation, for that matter. Coaching is less practice than process. Less job description than mindset. It is having enough curiosity, skill, and insight to know not only when to ask questions,…

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W-O-R-K!

    Layin’ Low Rest n’ pause Sleeping long Slow motion Gonna do Shoulda, coulda, woulda done Excuses What are you afraid of? Don’t you know what you’re made of? One of God’s greatest creations Take this invitation now — from “GET UP” by Mary, Mary Work. W-O-R-K. It confounds me… the number of people…

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Beyond the Fog

“Beyond the fog lies clarity.” — Anonymous   Early one crisp June morning, while on a short vacation to the Tennessee mountains, I had what I now call a “beyond the fog” moment. Standing, for quite some time, on the balcony, not really focusing; in more of a meditative than contemplative state, I was just…

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Read to Them… or NOT!

It’s a trilogy. Voyage to the Bunny Planet by Rosemary Wells. Three tiny books about this little bunny that goes on all kinds of adventures… sometimes in actuality, other times, in her dreams. I’m not going to lie. I don’t know why three year-old Morgan is so fascinated by these books. There are no repeating…

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What Happened to the Dream?

  For purposeful and focused writing and deep, meaningful conversation, consider talking with your students and having them write about this January 16, 2017 New Yorker Magazine cover by Kadir Nelson, my all time favorite illustrator. What do you see? What does ii make you think of? What are Nelson and The New Yorker saying?…

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