Three Little Words


Today, I received a Facebook message in the form of one sentence. A question, really. Three little words. “ How. Are. You? ” And let me tell you, my heart sang! I mean, I had a visceral response. I could feel it. Something stirred within me. I felt lifted! What’s funny is that the question came from a person who doesn’t even really know me. She follows me on Facebook. That’s about it! So, why the reaction? Why am I even writing about this? This is why. I have always been a listener, a supporter, a mentor, advisor, counselor, coach. That’s who I have always been, and that’s who I always will be. And this is why. I come from a line of strong, hard-working, independent women. We were taught not to carry our emotions around in little Petri dishes, asking everybody to examine them. We were taught to meet our struggles head on and keep it moving! And for the most part, that works. And this is why. We were also taught to be caring, compassionate, empathetic women. To be there for each other, our families, our friends in times of need and to be that strong, supportive pillar for them to lean on. And for the most part, that works! But, I’d like you to consider this blog as an appeal; a request on behalf of myself and people like me. Those of us who spend a lot of time giving of ourselves, sharing in the struggles of others, allowing others to cry on our capable shoulders, holding hands, saying prayers, wiping tears, and putting people back on track. Here’s the request: Just ask us, from time to time, those three little words; “How. Are. You.?” And then stop. Look us straight in our eyes, and listen. Really listen. I promise you won’t have to listen for long because we’re the types who can tell you in a nutshell and keep it moving! But, ask. Three little words. That’s all! Strong people have struggles too, no matter how “together” we seem to have it. We need to be heard and supported and validated just like everybody else. And as Forrest Gump would say it, “That’s all I have to say about that.”     .

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  1. Kevin McKinney on February 17, 2016 at 6:39 pm

    I love it… You’re one of the Best Clavis.
    Kevin McKinney

  2. Teresa on February 17, 2016 at 6:32 pm

    How. Are. You.
    What a fantabulous writer you are in addition to your coaching and speaking. My, oh, my:)

  3. Teresa on February 17, 2016 at 5:58 pm

    How. Are. You.
    Clavis, doggone it, you should be a writer, I swear you’re a much better writer than me, I’m a wannabe:)

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